Stop Engaging with the Gaslighter
Gaslighting is a form of sustained psychological manipulation that causes the victim to question or doubt his or her sanity, judgment, and memories. Gaslighting is emotional abuse. Many people live or have lived with being a victim of a gaslighter. This happens more often than you may realize and in many types of relationships including parent-child, partners, in friendships, and you can even gaslight yourself.
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Furthermore, gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse where one person exerts power over, gain control over, and inflicts emotional damage on the other. Gaslighting a malicious form of emotional abuse because it is so difficult to identify the warning signs.
For example, when you call a gaslighter out for something they did or said, they may change the subject by asking a question instead of responding to the issue at hand. They may blatantly lie about the situation by saying something like, “You’re making things up. That never happened.”
So, what can you do? Ask for help. Seek a counselor that supports you and makes you feel safe. But mainly…
Do Not Engage!
Ariel Leve’s video helps clarify gaslighting. “a person who is gaslighting will never respond to logic or reason. So if you apply logic and reason, you are going to feel let down.” She states the it is important to let go of the wish for it to be different. How many times have you heard “It will never happen again?” Or they deny nor remember what they did?
You are not losing your mind. You are likely being gaslighted.
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